It was October 16, 1983 at the Old Westbury Hebrew Congregation on Long Island when I married Karen. I was 34 years old at the time which is old for someone marrying for the first time. In some ways it seems like yesterday, but in others it seems like an eternity. It was a sunny and mild day when we tied the knot. I guess I should talk about what has transpired over 23 years of marriage. We honeymooned on Hawaii where I got a very bad sunburn. Since then I was never much of a beach person. At that time I worked for the big New York Public Library on 5th Avenue and 42nd Street. Lee was born on March 28, 1988. Time imposes changes on all of us, but Karen has been extremely resistant to any kind of change. She is very set in her ways which has frustrated me very much over the years. You can't have everything. In this day and age many marriages don't last very long, so I guess ours have passed the test of time. But my former sister-in-law Arlene who introduced me to Karen back in 1980 divorced Paul (Karen's brother) some years back after 24 years of marriage. My parents were married for 51 years when my Dad died in 1997.
The Met Cardinal game was rained out tonight so I guess that Din G from the NJIT library will not respond to this entry. :)
2 comments:
Julie and I celebrated our 2nd anniversary on Oct 2nd, so you have 21 years on us. Congratulations! Go Cardinals (Arizona). 58 seconds left on MNF. Setting it up for a game winning FG.
Bruce,
Marriage is a very strange thing. While you are a couple, you are still two people. My ex wife, Ellie and I were only married 13 years and had three beautiful children we both continue to love. When she was unhappy in the marriage I went into denial and didn't go to couples therapy with her as she wanted. I called it "her problem." We eventually divorced. She remarried very soon afterward. I remained single. I've dated several women after we divorced and was very reluctant to get into another serious relationship. I met my current girl friend Fran on a blind date in 1992, we dated for a few months but I stopped calling her because I wasn't ready for a relationship. A few years later we started dating again, this time for 3 years. She ended it because she said I wasn't "serious enough." In the next 5 years I resigned myself to being single forever. I had a relationship with an old girl friend who I loved a great deal, but I couldn't compete with her clinical depression. Fran and I met one day for lunch in 2003 and have been together ever singe. She moved in with me and my family July 2005 and we're still very happy. The question is do you stay in a relationship that is not fulfilling just for security or tempt fate with the chance of being lonely and regretful or maybe have a chance of happiness on your own or with someone else more suited for you. The choice and answer is not an easy one. At any rate, Happy Anniversary. You deserve one!
Mike
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